Tag Archives: Self Care

Learn How to Be Kinder to Yourself #PersonalDevelopment #MentalHealth #Wellbeing

Learn How to Be Kinder To Yourself

There are times in our lives when everything gets a bit too much. Whether that’s overwhelm at work, too much screen time, an extensive to-do list, or a strain on our mental or physical health. Instead of taking a step back we often soldier on regardless of the consequences. Read more

Rethink Your Monday Morning Blues #Wellbeing #SelfHelp

Rethink Your Monday Morning Blues

We’ve all experienced the Monday morning blues at some time in our lives, whether it was dragging yourself out of a warm bed to go to school, or finding the energy to fight through another day at the office. That feeling stays with us, and our subconscious begins to see Monday morning as a threat. If we’ve got sweaty palms, a tension headache, and stomach pains then our body will believe that we need to avoid the situation and so, in turn, pile more misery on us each week until we submit and stay in bed – where it’s safe! Read more

February Self-Improvement Challenge #PersonalDevelopment #SelfCare

February SI Challenge 2018Making the smallest of changes can have a huge impact on our wellbeing and personal development. When making any kind of life changes we can often be deceived into thinking this involves giving up our favourite activities or having a total overhaul of our mental, physical, and spiritual self, but that’s not the case Read more

Daily Tasks to Improve Your Life: Week 2 #PersonalDevelopment

January Challenge: Daily Tasks to Improve Your Life

Daily TasksWelcome to the second week of my January Challenge. I hope you managed to achieve all the daily tasks from last week’s post. If you missed it then catch up HERE.

Here are the next seven day’s challenges:

Day 1 – Be Proactive.

Take charge of your life. Strive to be better at everything you do today. Don’t wait for other people to give you the green light. Embrace the power within you and make today a fabulously proactive one.

Day 2 – Be True.

Today I want you to be original or extraordinary. Don’t try to please other people or become someone you’re not. Be uniquely you for the day.

Day 3 – Help Out.

Who needs your help today? Is it a friend, colleague, or a family member? What can you do to make someone’s day better?

Day 4 – Give Yourself the Gift of Time.

Allow yourself thirty minutes to work on your personal goals. Use it to plan, write, nurture, or focus your attention one-hundred percent on achieving happiness and success. (Why not give yourself thirty minutes every day from now on!)

Day 5 – Face the Fear.

Stop avoiding situations, tasks, or people who cause you fear today. We are all afraid of certain things but this stops us from achieving our goals. Face that fear and address it.

‘Everything you want is on the other side of fear.’ Jack Canfield

Day 6 – Nurture.

I believe in a holistic approach to life which means looking after the ‘whole’ person – mind, body, and spirit. Find a way today to stimulate your mind, refuel and refresh your body, and boost your spirituality.

Day 7 – De-Clutter.

Take it one room, cupboard, or drawer at a time but start the process of clearing your clutter today. Negative energy stagnates around ‘stuff’ so clear it out and leave room for positive energy and new opportunities.

There you go. Seven-day challenge. I’ll post another seven challenges next Monday so be sure to check back and join in. Leave a comment in the section below and share how you got on, or if there was anything you struggled with.

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Using Colour to Boost Your Wellbeing #SelfHelp

black clothesIf you took a look at my wardrobe, you’d see a plethora of black fabric. Skirts, trousers, dresses and tops; all of them are black. I don’t use my black clothing as a ‘think thin’ statement, and, fortunately, it isn’t because I attend a multitude of funerals, I just like wearing black. Of course, it may have something to do with my passion for the Gothic and horror genres. However, I do have the occasional flutter of blue, red and green, but I have to be in the right mood.

When I signed up for a Colour Me Beautiful session with my mum, I was worried that black would be on my no-no list.  Fortunately, I am one of the lucky ones who can get away with it (phew!), but I was surprised at how much colour can change your total appearance. The session was a birthday present for my mum, and we were looked after by Lisa, from Transforming U, who made us feel incredibly welcome. Lisa explained the history behind Colour Me Beautiful, telling us that it has been the world’s leading expert in image consulting for millions of women and men, around the world, for over 30 years.

It’s not just about the colours; the session gives you advice and confidence to utilise your clothing for your wellbeing.  Being well dressed doesn’t necessarily have to mean ‘expensive’. Lisa showed us how to match our clothes with our personality. She also walked us through the process of staying current and appropriate for our age.

Wearing clothes that flatter your proportions can change your entire look. Finally, we got to look at which colours complement our colouring.

There is a science behind the colour me beautiful approach, and it was fascinating to learn more about this side of the colour analysis. The influence of today’s Colour Me Beautiful system is the Munsell system. In 1903, Albert Munsell created a system of colour that he based on human eye response. It contains three characteristics; hue, value and chroma (clarity).

TColourhe hue represents cool or warm colours, whereas the value refers to its depth on a scale of 0 to 10 (black is 0/white is 10). The grading between light and dark colours measures the depth.  Finally, the chroma refers to the clarity of a colour, from vibrant to clear, also graded on a scale of 0 to 14 (muted is 0/clearest is 14)

Once we understood the science, Lisa was able to find out which colours were best for us.  The first step was to find our dominant colouring; this is done with your hair and eye colour.

I am a brunette with brown eyes. However, I dye my hair a reddish colour, and this has an impact on my overall colouring. My mum is blonde with brown eyes.

Once we knew our dominant colour (I was ‘deep’), we could move onto the colour test. This is where Lisa draped a variety of colour swatches across us to determine if we were warm or cool, clear or soft. The outcome will govern the different shades of a particular colour that we can wear.

My result was; deep – warm – soft, and so my colour palette includes rust, navy, moss, salmon, chocolate brown, red, purple, and a host of other incredibly rich colours.

Colour me Beaut2For the first time in ages, I was excited about wearing colour. Interestingly, my mum’s result showed that lighter shades of blue were not a good colour for her. My mum has always worn blue clothes and makeup, so it was quite strange for her to rethink not only her clothes but her makeup routine. As it happens, she switched to wearing more earthy tones, and it has transformed her face.

Colour me BeautIt was this aspect that fascinated me. By placing a swatch of colour close to our faces, Lisa could tell what worked and what didn’t. I didn’t grasp it until she put two shades of brown under my chin. One of the shades made my cheeks looked pink and healthy, and the other made me look like a bubonic plague survivor! It was an eye-opening experience.

Since returning home, we have both decluttered our wardrobes and recycled our clothing.  I’ve taken out all the wrong shades that made me look drawn and ill, and pulled the better colours to the front – I may have also indulged in a small shopping spree!

I bought a rust jacket in the sale, something I would never have thought about wearing before, and I team it with my jeans and a chocolate brown blouse. Every time I wear this outfit I am told by friends, family and even strangers on the street, that I look great.

According to Lisa, this is the ultimate test. If someone asks if you’ve not slept, or wonders if you are under the weather, the chances are you’re wearing the wrong colour. When you are complimented on your outfit or told you are glowing, then you’ve got it spot on!

The session was great fun, and both of us thoroughly enjoyed the day. We’ve both learned so much, and it has definitely influenced our shopping. Lisa gave us each a wallet that contains small swatches of our unique colours. I take mine with me everywhere I go so I can match up a top or jacket colour to the swatch and check it’s a good choice.

The Colour Me Beautiful session has given me the confidence to wear colours and certainly helped with my wellbeing. Instead of thinking I look ill, I now feel an inner glow that boosts my self-esteem. I still wear a lot of black, but I team it up with a variety of coloured accessories, jackets and scarves.

Why not try it for yourself? Pop over to Colour Me Beautiful and have a look.

I’d be interested to hear if anyone else has used colour to enhance their wellbeing. Please feel free to leave me a comment below.

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How to Create a More Fulfilling Future: Week 8 #PersonalGrowth

How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureI’ve been delighted with the response to this blog series so far and would like to thank everyone who has taken part. Readers have engaged with the questions and really given them some serious thought. It’s this reaction that I had hoped for. When we want to work on our personal development it’s so important to review various areas of our lives first. These questions give you the thinking space you need and I’ve loved reading the responses.

If you’ve missed any of the posts in this new series then don’t panic – you can catch up by clicking the links at the bottom of this post.

I will post additional questions for you to answer every Monday. As always, you might want to gather them all together like a personal workbook, or just pop in and out to answer the questions that appeal to you.

Don’t think too hard about each question, just go with the first thing that pops into your head.

If you have been following the entire series, then you’ll hopefully have a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations so far. You should have found yourself thinking quite seriously about certain aspects of your life – this is good!

Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a new word document and record your answers so you can refer to them when needed. This week I want you to think about specific moments in your life:

Questions for week #8:

  1. What is your proudest moment?
  1. What is your funniest moment/memory?
  2. What is your most embarrassing moment/memory?

Join me next Monday for more questions.

As always, your responses can be as private or as public as you choose. Feel free to leave your answers in the comments below. If you’d rather not, then simply share how you find the selection of questions, if you can answer them easily or if you struggled, and what you have chosen to do with the answers that came up for you if anything.

Take a look at the previous posts in this series:

·         Week 1

·         Week 2

·         Week 3

·         Week 4

·         Week 5

·         Week 6

·         Week 7

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How To Create a More Fulfilling Future Week #2

NEW BLOG SERIES: How to create a more fulfilling future.

How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureIf you missed the first post in this new series then panic not – you can catch up HERE.

As promised, I will post additional questions for you to answer every Monday. You might want to gather them all together like a personal workbook, or just pop in and out to answer the questions that appeal to you.

Don’t think too hard about each question, just go with the first thing that pops into your head. Some questions will amuse you, others will test your boundaries, but all of them will bring about a sense of fulfilment.

Each week I’ll share the link to the previous questions so you can collect them as you go and don’t have to worry if you miss a week. They may seem random in their order, but if you do choose to follow the entire series, then you’ll hopefully get a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations for a fulfilling future.

Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a new word document and record your answers so you can refer to them when needed. The questions below allow you the freedom to dream. Don’t hold back, write down exactly what you would do in each scenario and remember this is your challenge so leave your mum/dad/wife/husband/teacher hat at the door and be honest.

Questions for week #2:

  1. What would you do if you had a spare hour?
  2. What would you do if you had a spare afternoon?
  3. What would you do if you had a spare day?
  4. What would you do if you had a spare weekend?

Join me next Monday for more questions.

As always, your responses can be as private or as public as you choose. Feel free to leave your answers in the comments below. If you’d rather not, then simply share how you find the selection of questions, if you can answer them easily or if you struggled, and what you have chosen to do with the answers that came up for you if anything.

Thanks for visiting my blog, I hope you enjoyed this post. Want more? Connect with me here:  Twitter @ShelleyWilson72, Instagram or check out my Facebook pages http://www.facebook.com/FantasyAuthorSLWilson and http://www.facebook.com/MotivateMeBlog. You can also find me on Pinterest

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