Daily Tasks to Improve Your Life: Week 2 #PersonalDevelopment

January Challenge: Daily Tasks to Improve Your Life

Daily TasksWelcome to the second week of my January Challenge. I hope you managed to achieve all the daily tasks from last week’s post. If you missed it then catch up HERE.

Here are the next seven day’s challenges:

Day 1 – Be Proactive.

Take charge of your life. Strive to be better at everything you do today. Don’t wait for other people to give you the green light. Embrace the power within you and make today a fabulously proactive one.

Day 2 – Be True.

Today I want you to be original or extraordinary. Don’t try to please other people or become someone you’re not. Be uniquely you for the day.

Day 3 – Help Out.

Who needs your help today? Is it a friend, colleague, or a family member? What can you do to make someone’s day better?

Day 4 – Give Yourself the Gift of Time.

Allow yourself thirty minutes to work on your personal goals. Use it to plan, write, nurture, or focus your attention one-hundred percent on achieving happiness and success. (Why not give yourself thirty minutes every day from now on!)

Day 5 – Face the Fear.

Stop avoiding situations, tasks, or people who cause you fear today. We are all afraid of certain things but this stops us from achieving our goals. Face that fear and address it.

‘Everything you want is on the other side of fear.’ Jack Canfield

Day 6 – Nurture.

I believe in a holistic approach to life which means looking after the ‘whole’ person – mind, body, and spirit. Find a way today to stimulate your mind, refuel and refresh your body, and boost your spirituality.

Day 7 – De-Clutter.

Take it one room, cupboard, or drawer at a time but start the process of clearing your clutter today. Negative energy stagnates around ‘stuff’ so clear it out and leave room for positive energy and new opportunities.

There you go. Seven-day challenge. I’ll post another seven challenges next Monday so be sure to check back and join in. Leave a comment in the section below and share how you got on, or if there was anything you struggled with.

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Daily Tasks to Improve Your Life #PersonalDevelopment

January Challenge: Daily Tasks to Improve Your Life

Daily TasksWhen I started blogging five years ago, it was to record a series of challenges I’d set myself as part of my New Year Resolutions. Over the years my blog has evolved to include posts on holistic health, wellbeing, mental health, family, blogging, and personal development. These are all topics I love to learn and talk about. My background as a holistic health practitioner and tutor sets me up perfectly to share my thoughts and lessons on these topics.

I was doing a bit of goal setting recently and thought about where I wanted my blog to go. With the success of my recent series How to Create a More Fulfilling Future (you can read the final post HERE). I thought it would be fun to return to my roots and share more challenge related posts.

I’ve worked out an entire year’s worth of challenges for you. Some are thought-provoking, and others are for a bit of fun. Daily Tasks to Improve Your Life is January’s challenge series. For the next four weeks I’ll be setting you, my blog readers, a challenge to do one thing every day to improve your life.

I’d love to know how you get on with this so feel free to record your challenge in the comments or share your thoughts on my Facebook page.

Here are the tasks to try for the next seven days:

Day 1 – Don’t Put Your Life on Hold.

If you’ve been putting things off, then today’s the day to take control. Think about which area of your life you want to make changes or move forward and work out a plan of action. Start working on it today.

Day 2 – Stop Moaning.

It’s the start of a brand new year, so I want you to forget about last year’s problems and concentrate on being positive. Leave all that negativity behind and embrace a new start. If there’s one issue that you’re struggling to leave behind, then I suggest you write it down and burn the piece of paper (safely!)

Day 3 – Be Flexible.

If you’ve done everything the same way but never achieved the results you hoped for then perhaps it’s time to make some changes. Think about how you can do something different to achieve your goals. Avoid trying to be perfect or set in your ways and be open to new ideas.

Day 4 – Be Grateful.

Think about everything you are grateful for today and write it down in a journal. Keeping a gratitude journal is a good habit to increase positivity and peace.

Day 5 – Set Goals.

It’s the perfect time of year to write a New Year Resolution list, but is that wise? Instead of a long list of maybes design a plan for this year, the next three years, or the next five years. What do you want to do, be, or have? Work on a plan of action to achieve your dreams.

Day 6 – Have Fun.

Dance, sing, and laugh. Today is all about enjoying yourself and letting go of the self-imposed restrictions of day to day life.

Day 7 – Love Yourself.

Write yourself a love letter saying all the things you like about who you are. It’s important to remember how important you are and learn to love and honour yourself with positive self-talk and self-care.

There you go. Seven-day challenge. I’ll post another seven challenges next Monday so be sure to check back and join in. Leave a comment in the section below and share how you got on, or if there was anything you struggled with.

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List Writing for Pleasure – Is it Possible? #SelfHelp

Notebook 2 (2)My children told me what they would like for Christmas this year by sticking lists to the fridge. It appears my obsessive list writing disorder has rubbed off on them!

Christmas wouldn’t be Christmas without an array of lists. There’s one for the food shopping, one for gift buying, and another list of names and addresses for sending out your Christmas cards. A list is a helpful tool to keep you on track with jobs, tasks, and anything else that fills your brain on a day to day basis.

As a single mum, list writing is the one personal development tool that keeps me organised and calm. If it’s not on the list then it doesn’t get done! I know many of my friend and readers who hate writing lists and roll their eyes to the heavens when I start chattering on about it. Whether you love or loathe list writing, I hope the following ideas spark a little bit of creativity, a fond memory, or even a goal for the New Year.

First of all I want you to put aside your Christmas shopping list. Forget about frozen turkeys, parsnips, and picking up the cranberry sauce.

Now grab a pad and pen and give yourself the gift of five minutes to jot down a few things for each of the lists I’ve added below:

  1. List all the jobs you would love to try (yes, even astronaut).
  2. List all the cities you’ve visited and underline your favourite.
  3. List your five favourite books (ooh, that’s a tough one!).
  4. List the first three things you’d do/buy if you won a million pounds.
  5. List five things you’d save if you house was on fire (don’t count family as that’s too easy).
  6. List four people you would love to meet (dead or alive).
  7. List three wishes you would like to come true.
  8. List five nice things you’ve done for other people.
  9. List your favourite things about your family.
  10. List five things you would like to change in your life.

When I got my kids to do this exercise I was amused to find a two day school week, and five day weekend on my daughter’s list. My son added more takeaways to his. Their favourite cities were Barcelona and London, and I was very pleased to see my book, Oath Breaker, on their favourite book list – not at all biased!

Read back over your lists. Could you choose one of your favourite cities to visit next summer? If you would only save five things from the fire then do you need the ‘stuff’ in your house? Is it time for a de-clutter? What action steps can you take in 2018 to make your wishes come true? Remember all the favourite things you wrote about your family when you are all together this Christmas. Can you turn list number 10 into a New Year Resolution? Changes in your life only happen when you want them to. If they were important enough to write on a list, why aren’t they important enough to do in real life? Make it happen.

Writing a list is a hugely important part of my day, but why can’t we have a bit of fun along the way. It is the silly season after all!

How did you get on with your list writing? Pick one from each of your lists and write them in the comments.

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FINAL: How to Create a More Fulfilling Future: Summary #PersonalDevelopment

How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureOver the past nine weeks I’ve been running a blog series called ‘How to Create a More Fulfilling Future.’ If you’ve missed any of the posts over the course of this series then don’t panic – you can catch up by clicking the links at the bottom of this post.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has taken part and shared their stories. In the beginning, I suggested gathering your answers together in a personal workbook. There was a good reason for this as writing down our goals, observations, and achievements help us to stay grounded and accountable to our dreams.

If you have been following the entire series, then you’ll hopefully have a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations so far. You should have found yourself thinking quite seriously about certain aspects of your life – this is good!

Week One:

We looked at what we would do if we were brave enough, and what we have achieved even though we never thought we would or could.

Fear is a huge factor when pushing ourselves to do something outside our comfort zone. My favourite acronym is FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real and helps me remember that sometimes I’m the only one who is halting my efforts.

Quitting a job, writing and publishing a book, travelling solo, emigrating, and completing a physical challenge were just some of the incredible achievements my readers shared in the first week. Recalling your personal bravery, achievements, and spontaneous actions brings a sense of clarity to the forefront of your mind and therefore paves the way for you to set yourself other challenges and goals. So, here’s that final question again – what challenges are you ready to face now?

Week Two:

On week two we put aside our various hats (mum/dad/wife/husband/colleague/friend) and looked at what we would love to do if we had the freedom to do it. What would you do with a spare hour, afternoon, day, or weekend? The point of this exercise was to detach from our everyday ‘roles’ and think back to what it was like when we were only responsible for ourselves.

Why do our dreams have to change because we get married, or have children? Why can’t we drop everything and visit a friend at the other side of the country? Who said we couldn’t possibly indulge in an afternoon at the cinema, or curl up and read a book instead of ironing? And why do we insist on staying late at work instead of heading home to be with the family?

Often, we act how we think other people would want us to act. It’s something we learned as small children that has been carried through into our adult lives. Recognising that we are in control of our lives is important.

Week Three:

What are you good at? What would you like to improve? Thinking about our skills in a positive light helps us to feel connected to our passion, so it’s essential that we review this on a regular basis. While celebrating our strengths, it’s also imperative to think about the areas of our life we would like to improve upon. It’s these topics that become our future goals.

Improving ourselves is how we evolve and grow. Learning a new language, returning to college to retrain, building our self-confidence through workshops, and wishing to improve writing skills were just some of the ideas raised during week three. If time and money were no issue, what would you love to learn or improve upon?

Week Four:

Stress is a word that every single one of us has heard about, and probably experienced at one time or another. Do you let it control you, or do you have a system in place to combat/deal with the symptoms of stress? This was the topic up for discussion in week four.

Work, health, family, and finances came out as the top culprits for causing stress in our lives. It was interesting to note how my readers all reacted physically to this. Stomach pains, headaches, and chest pains manifested as a reaction to their situations.

Another interesting point to note is that in most situations the stress was self-inflicted. For example: Stressing about the state of the house when the kids are playing, adopting a ’what if’ attitude to situations and worrying about the hypothetical outcome, mentally berating yourself for having a chocolate bar instead of going to the gym, and putting too much pressure on yourself – or that need to be in constant control!

The final questions of week four touched upon how to cope with stress and what you could do to help yourself. Taking a time out to read, walk, a nap was a favourite with my readers. As was meditation, positive thinking, writing or journaling, and talking things over with family and friends. Do you have a favourite way to cope with stress?

Week Five:

Week five was an interesting one as we looked at how long we spend on social media, how valuable that time was, and what we could do instead if we cut back. Thinking about and/or recording the amount of time you spend online can be quite shocking, but by doing this, you highlight areas where you can claim back valuable time for family, leisure, or writing activities.

There’s a fine line between over-indulgence on social media sites and being active for the good of your profile (blog/book/business). The questions this week were designed to make you think about the quality of posting you do and if you really need to scroll down endless kitten memes! It was a challenging week of questions for many of my readers.

Week Six:

Who do you admire? Who keeps you grounded? Who motivates you? This week was all about appreciating our support networks in whatever capacity that falls under. Many of my readers acknowledged the importance of family in their answers, as well as the online support from fellow bloggers, writers, and colleagues. Knowing who we can call upon for encouragement and assistance is an important part of our personal development. Yes, we can do everything, but we don’t have to. Call upon your cheerleading squad to help you.

Week Seven:

I wanted to talk about self-care on week seven and look at how we treat ourselves compared to how we treat others. It was interesting to see that 99% of my readers think about others before themselves.

Why do we do this? I’ll use the classic flight attendant speech to highlight the need for self-care – put on your own oxygen mask before helping others! Many years ago I realised that if I were broken, I wouldn’t be strong enough to help my family, so I concentrated on healing myself, looking after my personal development and self-care, and when I’d grown strong I was able to help others easily but from a place of power.

Looking after your own needs is not selfish, it’s necessary. Julia Cameron dedicated an entire book to the importance of ‘filling the well’ in her fabulous book, The Artist’s Way. What can you do today that’s just for you?

Week Eight:

Enjoying a little light relief during our personal development is just as important as the self-work we do as we evolve and grow. This week was dedicated to remembering our funniest moments and also our most embarrassing moments.

What I found most interesting was how my readers had been able to turn these experiences on their head and see the funny side. Learning to accept our faults and failures is a huge step in the right direction, but to be able to turn them into lessons is even better. Every embarrassing moment is a small part of that patchwork of emotions. It might take some time, but we rethink the memory and turn it into a positive.

Week Nine:

The final post of the series looked at what we would like to be, do, or have if money, failure, and time was no issue. I wanted my readers to dream big this week!

We can prevent ourselves from achieving our dreams because of self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and acting how we think other people would want us to behave. Why? These final questions were designed to make you think about your deepest desires, greatest ideas, long-held dreams, and to realise that nobody, but you, is holding you back from achieving what you want.

Conclusion:

I hope you’ve enjoyed this series and found it to be helpful and insightful. Personal development is just that – personal. We are all on a unique journey with different goals, but finding support in each other’s stories is what helps us to learn and grow.

Thank you for being a part of this voyage and may I wish you all a happy and prosperous future.

Here’s a look at the previous posts in this series:

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How to Create a More Fulfilling Future: Week 7 #SelfHelp

How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureIf you’ve missed any of the posts in this new series then don’t panic – you can catch up by clicking the links at the bottom of this post.

As promised, I will post additional questions for you to answer every Monday. You might want to gather them all together like a personal workbook, or just pop in and out to answer the questions that appeal to you.

Don’t think too hard about each question, just go with the first thing that pops into your head.

If you have been following the entire series, then you’ll hopefully have a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations so far. You should have found yourself thinking quite seriously about certain aspects of your life – this is good!

Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a new word document and record your answers so you can refer to them when needed. This week I want you to think about your childhood and how you treat yourself now.

Questions for week #7:

  1. Who do you treasure most in the world?
  1. What did you learn in childhood that has sustained you through life?
  2. How do you treat others?
  3. How do you treat yourself?

Join me next Monday for more questions.

As always, your responses can be as private or as public as you choose. Feel free to leave your answers in the comments below. If you’d rather not, then simply share how you find the selection of questions, if you can answer them easily or if you struggled, and what you have chosen to do with the answers that came up for you if anything.

Take a look at the previous posts in this series:

·        Week 1

·        Week 2

·        Week 3

·        Week 4

·        Week 5

·        Week 6

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How To Create a More Fulfilling Future: Week 6 #SelfHelp

How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureNEW BLOG SERIES: How to create a more fulfilling future.

If you’ve missed any of the posts in this new series then don’t panic – you can catch up by clicking the links at the bottom of this post.

As promised, I will post additional questions for you to answer every Monday. You might want to gather them all together like a personal workbook, or just pop in and out to answer the questions that appeal to you.

Don’t think too hard about each question, just go with the first thing that pops into your head. Some questions will amuse you, others will test your boundaries, but all of them will bring about a sense of fulfilment.

Each week I’ll share the link to the previous questions so you can collect them as you go and don’t have to worry if you miss a week. They may seem random in their order, but if you do choose to follow the entire series, then you’ll hopefully get a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations for a fulfilling future.

Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a new word document and record your answers so you can refer to them when needed. This week I want you to think about who you have in your life, and how they help you.

Questions for week #6:

  1. Who motivates you?
  1. Who keeps you grounded?
  2. Who do you admire?
  3. Who do you miss?
  4. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve been given?

Join me next Monday for more questions.

As always, your responses can be as private or as public as you choose. Feel free to leave your answers in the comments below. If you’d rather not, then simply share how you find the selection of questions, if you can answer them easily or if you struggled, and what you have chosen to do with the answers that came up for you if anything.

Take a look at the previous posts in this series:

·         Week 1

·         Week 2

·         Week 3

·         Week 4

·         Week 5

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How To Create a More Fulfilling Future Week #2

NEW BLOG SERIES: How to create a more fulfilling future.

How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureIf you missed the first post in this new series then panic not – you can catch up HERE.

As promised, I will post additional questions for you to answer every Monday. You might want to gather them all together like a personal workbook, or just pop in and out to answer the questions that appeal to you.

Don’t think too hard about each question, just go with the first thing that pops into your head. Some questions will amuse you, others will test your boundaries, but all of them will bring about a sense of fulfilment.

Each week I’ll share the link to the previous questions so you can collect them as you go and don’t have to worry if you miss a week. They may seem random in their order, but if you do choose to follow the entire series, then you’ll hopefully get a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations for a fulfilling future.

Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a new word document and record your answers so you can refer to them when needed. The questions below allow you the freedom to dream. Don’t hold back, write down exactly what you would do in each scenario and remember this is your challenge so leave your mum/dad/wife/husband/teacher hat at the door and be honest.

Questions for week #2:

  1. What would you do if you had a spare hour?
  2. What would you do if you had a spare afternoon?
  3. What would you do if you had a spare day?
  4. What would you do if you had a spare weekend?

Join me next Monday for more questions.

As always, your responses can be as private or as public as you choose. Feel free to leave your answers in the comments below. If you’d rather not, then simply share how you find the selection of questions, if you can answer them easily or if you struggled, and what you have chosen to do with the answers that came up for you if anything.

Thanks for visiting my blog, I hope you enjoyed this post. Want more? Connect with me here:  Twitter @ShelleyWilson72, Instagram or check out my Facebook pages http://www.facebook.com/FantasyAuthorSLWilson and http://www.facebook.com/MotivateMeBlog. You can also find me on Pinterest