Real Women, Real Lives
Who inspires you? Who do you use as your motivator to get things done or to make valuable changes to your life?
There are thousands of women who stimulate our need for greatness. They appear on our television and movie screens, we listen to them on the radio, or we read their encouraging stories in articles or books. It’s easy to put a celebrity on a pedestal and desire their lifestyle, skillset and strength of character, but we don’t need to turn to the glossy magazines, or the big screen, to find inspirational women who can motivate us to succeed. They live next door, work alongside us, and talk to us at the supermarket.
The Real Women, Real Lives feature highlights the incredible individuals who have succeeded on their chosen path, or turned misfortune into positivity. Ladies who have conquered illness or gone above and beyond to help others, and made a difference. Women who have stepped out of their comfort zone and launched a business, or ventures that have an impact on their environment, or community.
These remarkable women are your friend, co-worker and neighbour and I’m delighted to be able to share their stories with you.
Today, I am delighted to invite Nikki Everiss to share her story.
Tell us a little about you and your story.
At the end of 2017 my life as I knew it came crashing down. My little boy was 6 months old when I found out his dad, my fiancé at the time had been cheating on me. It was heart-breaking, however I made a decision to do the best thing by my little boy and that was to leave his Dad and start a new life.
As awful as it was I was grateful that I found out when I did. So a few months later I started to think about what I wanted to do with my life. I wanted a sense of purpose and to help people somehow. I read a book called ‘She Means Business’ by Carrie Green and this encouraged me to do some blue sky thinking. Following on from this I am now a Professional Matchmaker and mind-set coach helping people with their love lives. Of course it wasn’t as simple as that but I pushed any doubts out of my mind and trusted my intuition that I was on the right path.
As a professional matchmaker I introduce people based on their values, interests and future aspirations. Many people contact me if they are finding it difficult to meet potential future partners. I mainly attract busy professionals who don’t have the time to be searching online or going out every weekend in the hope that they might meet someone at the local pub, which often leaves them feeling disappointed. I can take away the hard work and aim to send them their first introduction within two weeks of their membership starting. It’s really exciting.
This started as just a dream and now it has become my reality.
What’s your biggest dream in life?
First of all is to be happy and fulfilled, followed by success.
I want to do this by helping people who may have given up on love or on the verge of giving up. I want people to contact me if they are ready to change their current situation or if they are looking for love.
With my success I dream about having the freedom to live life on my own terms. Making lots of memories with my little boy, family and friends. I also want to make my parents proud and be able to treat them as they have been amazing role models. They have always believed in me and supported me if I have ever doubted myself.
If you chose a power word for this year what would it be and why?
Focused! I don’t think I’ve ever felt so focused in my life. I have a vision and I’m determined to get there.
Who inspires you and why?
Anyone who refuses to become a victim.
One person in particular is Katie Piper. I think she is absolutely amazing and such an inspiration. She is a great example of someone who refused to be a victim and even after such a traumatic experience managed to turn her life around and inspire others to do the same. I’m sure there are times when she could have easily given up. I know her journey hasn’t been easy, but it just goes to show what you can do if you’re focused and turn a negative situation into the best thing that has ever happened to you.
What, in your experience, motivates you best? Can you give an example?
Making a better and secure future for my little boy. I would say that motivates me the most because I want to be the best example I can be and show him that if you follow your dreams they do come true.
What actions/events/environments would adversely affect your motivation? Can you give an example and how you coped?
6 months after my break up my Mom was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer. I was still coping with my own heartache and then I had to deal with this and it really hit me hard. I was scared, confused and angry but I knew I had to be strong, I just wasn’t sure how. I decided to hire a life coach to help me and it was the best investment I could have made. I don’t think I would have coped as well as I did without her help. Mom is nearly out the other side, her strength and positivity throughout has amazed me, considering what she has gone through physically and mentally. We are excited for the future and making lots of plans for the summer once she is better. I’ve learnt to trust the journey and one of my favourite quotes is ‘the harder the climb, the better the view.’ I really do believe we are sent these obstacles to make us appreciate what we do have. It will all be worth it I’m sure.
How do you ensure that your personal level of motivation is high on a daily basis?
Mindset is key and I practice the following daily which really helps keep me motivated:
Gratitude – before I do anything in the morning I list 10 things I am grateful for every day and say thank you.
Visualisation – I take 5 – 10 minutes every day to imagine where I want to be by the end of the year. This keeps me focused on my goals.
Affirmations – I have recorded affirmations relevant to me on my phone and listen back to these every day. An affirmation can help you with your confidence and self-worth. If you are not sure what an affirmation is or what ones are best suited to you then take a look online.
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