Real Women, Real Lives
Who inspires you? Who do you use as your motivator to get things done or to make valuable changes to your life?
There are thousands of women who stimulate our need for greatness. They appear on our television and movie screens, we listen to them on the radio, or we read their encouraging stories in articles or books. It’s easy to put a celebrity on a pedestal and desire their lifestyle, skillset and strength of character, but we don’t need to turn to the glossy magazines, or the big screen, to find inspirational women who can motivate us to succeed. They live next door, work alongside us, and talk to us at the supermarket.
The Real Women, Real Lives feature highlights the incredible individuals who have succeeded on their chosen path, or turned misfortune into positivity. Ladies who have conquered illness or gone above and beyond to help others, and made a difference. Women who have stepped out of their comfort zone and launched a business, or ventures that have an impact on their environment, or community.
These remarkable women are your friend, co-worker and neighbour and I’m delighted to be able to share their stories with you.
Today, I am delighted to invite Tania Taylor to share her story.
Tell us a little about you and your story.
I had been public speaking in my various positions for six years, but now I was in a more senior management position I almost felt more pressure to do it well. So, I sought out hypnotherapy from my local holistic therapies centre. I admit at the time I thought it was all very woo woo and there was going to be some kind of magic wand that just made it better. When she asked me if I’d like to work on my OCD and IBS too I said yes, but walked out at the end laughing to myself, thinking she’s got no chance!
Only a few sessions later, and after lots of hard work from me, I was OCD and IBS free, and have been ever since (four years now), and my public speaking anxiety levels reduced ten-fold which meant I could do it with confidence again. Although I do still become anxious, I don’t feel the nerves until just beforehand and I’m now pleased they’re there. A little bit of adrenaline before public speaking is great to get the energy going.
Fast forward a little more and my dreams of becoming a counsellor were knocked back as I was unable to get a funded Masters degree without having had 100 contact hours of counselling under my belt. My hypnotherapy diplomas were purely a route to my Masters degree, but I loved it so much and had a huge demand almost immediately, that I ended up leaving a job I thoroughly loved, to become self-employed.
My family have been a huge support to me in enabling this to happen, along with some fairly traumatic events along the way (but that’s another story – Rise of the Mumpreneur for anyone who is interested). In a nutshell, I had a really traumatic event happen that created a level of anxiety that spiralled completely out of control and caused my OCD and IBS. I also lost my beautiful stepmum to breast cancer, and then my Grandad to dementia, after he was abused in care. Which resulted in me creating a national campaign www.change.org/JusticeForGraham that has almost 300,000 signatures. I’ll be presenting it to Parliament in the next few months.
What’s your biggest dream in life?
To see my children, grow into healthy, content adults, fully equipped with tools to manage their emotional and physical wellbeing. I have every intention of changing government legislation in relation to vulnerable adults and care abuse. On top of that, I would love to help hundreds of thousands of people throughout my life, in showing them they no longer have to live with anxiety and related conditions. I can’t envisage retiring as I love my work so much, but I can imagine downscaling as I get older, and my partner and I living in a lovely small country cottage somewhere with beautiful views.
If you chose a power word for this year what would it be and why?
Kindness – As long as you’re not using it to your own detriment, kindness is a wonderful tool for creating positive interactions that leave you feeling wonderful because of all of the positive hormones you release when planning, doing or reminiscing about an act of kindness you have completed.
Who inspires you and why?
My Stepmum Laura, she inspires me every day. Throughout some of her worst times battling breast cancer she always stayed true to herself, kind, considerate, but using lots of self-care too. She inspired me to be the best I can be no matter what challenges life throws my way.
What, in your experience, motivates you best? Can you give an example?
Setting achievable goals. If you don’t have a goal to work towards I find myself not doing much of anything. I thrive from working towards achievements that will push my boundaries if it means I will help more people. Which is one of the reasons I’m releasing my book. It wasn’t something I ever considered as a possibility ten years ago, and now I have a huge array of ideas, all centralising around helping others to move forward, without pressure or worry of failure and at the right pace for them. My “Sparkling Moments 30 Days of amazing” book is one of my first steps into making life a little easier for people in a non-pressured, inexpensive way that doesn’t take too much time either.
What actions/events/environments would adversely affect your motivation? Can you give an example and how you coped?
When I was wrongly accused of something I didn’t do my whole world was turned upside down and inside out. I was studying at the time and my children were much younger. After going through something so traumatic I think it changes you. It helps you to put new challenges into perspective. Once you have gotten through one big challenge in life, you know that you will always be strong enough to cope with any others. Am I the only one that’s been through a big challenge or trauma? Certainly not. When we look back into our pasts we can all find incidences of trauma that we survived and got through, where we may have felt weak at the time, but we still live to tell the tale. It’s these moments from which we can draw strength.
How do you ensure that your personal level of motivation is high on a daily basis?
I think this is a really good question and one that many people may choose to answer differently. I’d like to begin by saying it’s okay not to have high motivation on a daily basis. In fact, it would be nigh impossible. We are human, we can control our thoughts and behaviours, but we can’t control others’ thoughts and behaviours and sometimes life throws an obstacle in our way that will result in us feeling less motivated occasionally. We must learn that when we’re feeling a little low we can allow ourselves to feel and experience those feelings, whilst at the same time acknowledge that this isn’t necessarily the way we want to feel forever and that’s where the most important step to motivation lies in my view. It is the moment you decide this isn’t a state you want to remain in, you acknowledge it’s an important and valid feeling for me right now, and you set a goal for when you don’t want to feel this way anymore, and plan what you will do on that specific day that will help you to feel more motivated, more positive, or have more energy.
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