Who inspires you? Who do you use as your motivator to get things done or to make valuable changes to your life?
There are thousands of women who stimulate our need for greatness. They appear on our television and movie screens, we listen to them on the radio, or we read their encouraging stories in articles or books. It’s easy to put a celebrity on a pedestal and desire their lifestyle, skillset and strength of character, but we don’t need to turn to the glossy magazines, or the big screen, to find inspirational women who can motivate us to succeed. They live next door, work alongside us, and talk to us at the supermarket.
The Real Women, Real Lives feature highlights the incredible individuals who have succeeded on their chosen path, or turned misfortune into positivity. Ladies who have conquered illness or gone above and beyond to help others, and made a difference. Women who have stepped out of their comfort zone and launched a business, or ventures that have an impact on their environment, or community.
These remarkable women are your friend, co-worker and neighbour and I’m delighted to be able to share their stories with you.
Today, I am delighted to invite Christine Frey, personal development coach, counsellor and author to share her story.
Tell us a little about you and your story.
My name is Christine and I appear to be a late starter! After raising two beautiful daughters I graduated at 40, discovered my ideal career in personal development at 45, married my ideal husband at 49 and at 55 decided to take a three-year sabbatical, sell everything and travel around the world. While travelling I got myself fit and healthy and finally had the time to consolidate all I had learned through my counselling and coaching work and write Take2 – Directing your Best Life. It sounds like a cliché to say my life was transformed through writing this book and developing the Take2 programme, except that it was. I realised the key to success lies inside each of us and I returned from travelling with renewed passion to help others consciously create the life they want rather than allowing out of date beliefs and habits to operate unconsciously, meaning nothing will change. In keeping with being a late starter I returned to University last year to study an MSc in Mindfulness & Compassion (I will graduate for a second time at 60!) and, having spent many years as a couch potato, have recently taken up jogging, motivating myself with the goal of running 5k around Central Park on my 60th birthday in October.
What’s your biggest dream in life?
George Eliot said, ‘it is never too late to be what you might have been’ and I am passionate about encouraging people to follow their dreams whatever their age. I have watched so many people limited, not by circumstances or age, but by their own beliefs and I want to encourage people to rip up the rule book and make every stage of life the very best that they can. There are so many opportunities available and my dream is to take as many of them as I possibly can, for as long as I can, and to encourage others to do the same.
If you chose a power word for this year what would it be and why?
My power word would be ‘responsibility’ – now that might not sound very inspiring or exciting, but I can tell you from personal experience that as soon as we take complete responsibility for our own life, and especially our internal world, then everything changes. I have done my share of blaming and had a fair few pity parties in the past, both involved me giving away my power and placing responsibility for my happiness on circumstances or other people. When I became willing to accept that I alone was responsible for my life and my happiness the power came back to me and I was able to take control of every aspect of my life and happiness – give it a try, you will soon learn to love my power word!
Who inspires you and why?
Having a bit of an age thing going on at the moment I am inspired by American doctor Christiane Northrup. As well as being a pioneer in women’s health and well-being Dr Northrup teaches women how to thrive at every stage of life. Having long had a desire to rekindle my love of dancing, but finding all kinds of excuses not to start, I was particularly inspired to learn how Christiane had thrown herself into the difficult but sensual Argentine Tango following a painful divorce, joining a class where she knew no one and without a partner. That made my excuses seem rather lame.
What, in your experience, motivates you best? Can you give an example?
I love to read of people who have, against the odds, achieved great and small things in life. I am not a fan of social media, but I have set up my Facebook page to stream inspirational stories and I use these to motivate myself when I am tempted to make excuses for not moving in the direction I want to go. Staying with the age theme an example is eighty-year-old Wang Deshun who wowed the Chinese fashion world when he stormed shirtless down the catwalk in Beijing (Google him – it is worth a look!)
What actions/events/environments would adversely affect your motivation? Can you give an example and how you coped?
There are two things which energise me most, people and nature, and I find my motivation dropping if I spend too much time on my own or in built up and busy environments. As I spend a fair amount of time alone writing, I make sure I take regular walks in nature and organise as many coffee dates as possible with people who inspire or encourage me.
How do you ensure that your personal level of motivation is high on a daily basis?
I believe that the first hour of the day is key to how motivated I will be. As soon as I wake I consciously move my attention to all the things in life I can be grateful for and spend a few minutes focusing on this. I also stretch my body and take some time to meditate or use visualisation to generate positive energy. Having recently taken up jogging I do this first thing, several times a week, I never believed I could get my body going so early in the morning but that was just a limiting belief. On the days I run I feel more energised and motivated than ever.
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