Motivational Advent Calendar: Door Number 10 #PersonalDevelopment #MentalHealth #SayNo

Welcome to your Motivate Me Advent Blog Calendar!

Throughout December, I shall be opening a new advent door on a personal development technique or tip that you might wish to try that day or save for the New Year.

Door Number Ten: Just Say NO!

December and the lead up to Christmas are called the ‘silly season’ for a reason. Do you find yourself accepting more invitations than you would normally? Have you agreed to bake, make, craft, and carry more than ever before? Why do we do it?

I’m not saying that you should turn down all the glittering party invitations, or tell your in-laws that you’d rather not see them this year, but I am saying that it’s okay to say no to anything that doesn’t sync with you.

Dealing with depression means noticing my triggers and dealing with them before they manifest into something beyond my control. When I’m tired I know that the only thing I can do is rest, and remain quiet – saying no to a few invites might be the only way I can survive the entire holiday so, for me, it’s vital.

Just because it’s Christmas and everyone is high on icing sugar, and loopy because the tree lights are on super-speed, doesn’t mean you need to jeopardise your mental health. Do what’s right for you this year.

Is there something you want to say no to doing? How relieved will you be once it’s done? Don’t put it off, say no and get on with your week.


  1. I learned quite late in life that you could say no, because my parents were always yes people. As I got older I saw how tired they were,and how much others took advantage of them because they were willing… No, that wasn’t happening to me!
    They learned even later, and now have a much more peaceful life.

    1. I love that you saw that and were able to act on it. We often get sucked in to the people pleasing zone without ever realising it. Creating a peaceful life is what’s important and I’m so glad your lovely parents have managed to find that.

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