How to Create a More Fulfilling Future: Week 5 #SelfHelp

How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureNEW BLOG SERIES: How to create a more fulfilling future.
If you’ve missed any of the posts in this new series then don’t panic – you can catch up by clicking the links below:
·         Week 1
·         Week 2
·         Week 3
·         Week 4
As promised, I will post additional questions for you to answer every Monday. You might want to gather them all together like a personal workbook, or just pop in and out to answer the questions that appeal to you.
Don’t think too hard about each question, just go with the first thing that pops into your head. Some questions will amuse you, others will test your boundaries, but all of them will bring about a sense of fulfilment.
Each week I’ll share the link to the previous questions so you can collect them as you go and don’t have to worry if you miss a week. They may seem random in their order, but if you do choose to follow the entire series, then you’ll hopefully get a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations for a fulfilling future.
Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a new word document and record your answers so you can refer to them when needed. This week I want you to think about your time spent online.
Questions for week #5:

  1. How long do you spend online every day?
  1. How often do you use social media?
  2. If you set aside time for a social media break, what would you miss?
  3. What could you do instead if you weren’t online?

Join me next Monday for more questions.
As always, your responses can be as private or as public as you choose. Feel free to leave your answers in the comments below. If you’d rather not, then simply share how you find the selection of questions, if you can answer them easily or if you struggled, and what you have chosen to do with the answers that came up for you if anything.
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  1. Happy Monday Shelley!
    How long do you spend online every day? Oo-er… too long I think!
    How often do you use social media? Daily… frequently throughout the day to catch up
    If you set aside time for a social media break, what would you miss? The interaction with some of my cyber friends!
    What could you do instead if you weren’t online? Read, write, bake
    I should really have one of those SM breaks… maybe that will be my January thing!

    1. Morning! I think these questions will bring up the same conclusion for most of us – we all need regular breaks from social media. I think some of us (okay, me!) think our profiles will drop off the face of the earth if we’re not online 24/7 but that’s not the case. To take a step away is great for the creative soul and our mental health. Thanks for sharing and have a fabulous week x

  2. Hello Shelley – these are great questions and prompts for thinking about how we use our time. I find being online and using social media for my blog is very relaxing and feel no pressure to be anything else than my book blogging self, but personal social media is a separate category for me. I often take a break from that because I find myself scrolling through feeds and wondering what I’m doing. So when I do take a break, I spend my time doing more quality things, and I’m much less stressed. Happy Monday!

    1. That’s such a good observation. I love sharing blogs, books, and stories but when it comes to my ‘friends’ sharing political stuff, etc I get very agitated. It’s interesting to see them as separate entities. Glad you enjoyed the questions x

  3. Q1. Mate, I downloaded the “Moment” app that tell you how much time you spend online everyday and on what sites. So I spend anywhere between 2-6hrs a day, which horrified me!
    Q2. Every day, all day.
    Q3. Mainly, people sending me private messages & news
    Q4. Read! Clean! Bake! Play with my daughter! Oh the shame.

  4. 1. How long do you spend online every day? Too long I think, eek! But I love surfing and watching videos of cats trying to fit into tiny cardboard boxes on Facebook!
    2. How often do you use social media? I use it everyday, whether it’s for my blog or just catching up on what friends are doing.
    3. If you set aside time for a social media break, what would you miss? I think I’d worry about not having posts scheduled so I’d make sure I had content scheduled for my break. I think I’d worry about missing something good happening or browsing through photos, especially on Instagram!
    4. What could you do instead if you weren’t online? Ahem, well I guess I could tidy the house a bit! Plus, I could read more! But sometimes my mind is so preoccupied that I can’t concentrate on reading so social media is a good way of winding down.

    1. I can totally relate to the cats in boxes!! Addictive viewing 😉 It’s an interesting point that you make about missing out on something, I think the world is so fast these days that we never feel fully connected because it all happens within the blink of an eye. I also appreciate your honesty about using social media as a way to wind down, it has that effect on me too – sometimes! x

  5. 1. How long do you spend online every day? I have a schedule for each day and am only online when I need to be with the task I am doing. I do have the odd social media scroll that is unplanned but a lot less than I used to.
2. How often do you use social media? Everyday, mainly when i need to for business related activities
3. If you set aside time for a social media break, what would you miss? I regularly have a social media break and I don’t miss it at all. When practicing self-care I don’t go on my phone at all and love having that time
4. What could you do instead if you weren’t online? Spend more time with family and practicing self-care. I do feel that I already have a good balance though

    1. I think you have a wonderful balance, Lucy. You’re my poster girl! Switching your phone off is a big one as the constant notifications can be overwhelming. I leave my phone in another room from 6pm so I can’t hear it. Thank you for stopping by and sharing x

  6. Hopping over from today’s Suzie Speaks Blog Party and trust me to land on one of the most revealing of questions!! I couldn’t tell you how long I spend on social media, but it’s definitely TOO long! Once Halloween is over, I will definitely be taking a little break. I feel the need to spend some time with Beloved without constantly looking down at a screen!! Sue x

    1. Haha, this week’s questions have been tough for quite a few people as we are forced to admit just how much time we do spend online! I’m on holiday next week and will be having a bit of a break from social media. I think you’re right, Sue, we all need to reconnect with family every now and then x

  7. How long do you spend online every day? With work and personal life – too long!
    How often do you use social media? Daily but more for writing / blogging than personal.
    If you set aside time for a social media break, what would you miss? Other creative people.
    What could you do instead if you weren’t online? Go back to being a hermit.
    Before I found writing / blogging I didn’t do much at all. My life was quite dull and I rarely connected with new people. Social media has changed my life – for the better.

    1. Spot on, Lucy! Finding the balance between real life and our online existence is what matters. I have so many friends online that life would be very dull if I didn’t speak to them as often as I do in whatever capacity that is (blog comment, tweets, FB). I couldn’t step away from social media but I understand the need to reconnect with those people around me. Thanks for commenting x

  8. Q1 Varies and some days 1-2hrs
    Q2 Less time than blogging and reading other blogs
    Q3 Family and friends emails and updates, when we are overseas
    Q4 Walking, time with people. At the moment I should be watching rugby like a good kiwi like the rest in the room and here I am on here 🙂

  9. Hi Shelley – another of your posts that’s got me thinking. Thanks. I spend way too much time online. I am new-ish to blogging so trying to get my head round tons of stuff at the moment but can be information overload at times. I need to go cold turkey at times. A walk tends to clear my heard. JIll x

    1. I can totally relate to that, Jill. A break away from the laptop, desk, house, as well as social media are all vital to our wellbeing. I love your blog and I know you’ll be a HUGE success so finding that balance will help as you evolve and grow, Shelley x

  10. God, what a guilt trip those questions are! Haha. But its true, and it’s something I’ve been trying to do for ages now. When Kirsty and I went away last weekend, we said ‘No Phones, No Social Media’ but its harder than it sounds! We spent a lot more quality time than we usually do, which was progress, but we certainly weren’t Social Media-less. I think it’s something I’ll have to do in stages; cold turkey might bring me out in withdrawal!

    1. As one of your social media followers I thoroughly enjoyed seeing your holiday pics, however, I fully understand that need to switch off and enjoy family time. When I went to America in the summer I posted once a day just to keep my family and friends updated on my travels. It was great to use my phone as a camera and nothing else – no pings, pongs, and dings when my notifications come through. The daily updates worked a treat and kept my online presence ticking over while I was free to enjoy myself. 🙂

      1. The habbit I want to break is the “lets scroll down Facebook for the 50th time today” one, haha. There’s nothing new or interesting but I’ve just become so accustomed to having my phone in my hand and my finger on the scroll!
        On hols, it was nice to take a few photos, and check-in to a few places, but I put it on areoplane mode a lot too, to stop me checking social media as much! Buuuut, when we were in the lodge, TV on (and Kirsty watching Strictly…) I couldn’t help myself! I think that latter scenario was allowed! haha.

  11. Oh I can tell I’m going to need to jot down your questions. My downfall constantly checking Facebook. I need to designate a time to put my phone away or as you suggest in another room.

  12. Fascinating set of questions here Shelley and research data does demonstrate clear links between on-line time and general life happiness./productivity. As for the questions; ummm
    1. Too much; a lot is author related and responding to notifications. A lot is also time wasting when you boil through the question and actually consider it. Boo hiss to that!
    2. I’ve not cut right back. I have a slot from 3.45 until 5 pm most days. That is where I engage bloggers, flip through social media hops, answer e-mails and so on. My next slot is 8 until 9 pm. Tidying up, but that’s cut off. What is left is left until the next day. That is the ambition and for the most part it works.
    3 This is definitely the personal messages and blog interaction.
    4. Easy; write books, do NaNoWriMo and detox from the interweb 🙂

    1. Hopefully, when we think about what we could do and achieve instead of scrolling through endless kitten memes it can motivate us to cut back. I love your schedule and have established a similar framework but at the other end of the day (7-8am). The author related online work is a necessary evil, but if you get the balance right then it’s hugely beneficial. 🙂

      1. Spot on, social media uncontrolled can seriously eat time. I’ve been there before and once I realised how much “dead” time it created I had a mental reshuffle. Prioritise and stick to the schedule became essential to feeling better about lots of things and reducing guilt at not doing things that needed to be done. I should regularly do that more often and ensure things are on track. These sort of discussions help me remember that too 🙂

  13. I’m trying to limit how much time I spend on social media these days. I want to spend as much time with my kids as I can, but they’re developing friendships and having fun growing up. Although, it’s going way too fast that’s for sure. Thanks for doing these blog posts. They certainly make you focus on what’s important to you! 🙂

    1. Thanks for that, Lisa. I know what you mean about the kids. My three are getting to that stage where they’ve forged their own lives – I’m only needed for homework help, or social needs (giving a lift or lending money!!). I also don’t seem to have enough time to read all the blog posts I want to read, and this gets worse the more wonderful bloggers I meet! I try to assign an hour to just catching up on reading and commenting but it’s not always easy.

  14. This really got me thinking. Especially as I’ve been trying to spend less time on social media. I now log out of some apps when I’m not using them! I enjoy the time away. Although I do use social media more since I’ve been blogging.
    Q1. Wow, I would say on and off throughout the day, 3-5 hours.
    Q2. Multiple times a day!
    Q3. Probably nothing! But blogging possibilities.
    Q4. Read. Talk. Bake. Hug my cat.

    1. Thinking about these questions can help us to be accountable for our actions can’t they. I think every comment includes that longing for a break or a balance. Thanks for stopping by and commenting x

  15. What an interesting exercise! I do a bit of self-reflection everyday in my diary so this should be good 🙂 Here are my answers:
    How long do you spend online every day? Between 3 to 5 hours (including work/blogging/social media promotion)
    How often do you use social media? Everyday or 6 days a week at least
    If you set aside time for a social media break, what would you miss? Hmm, to be honest, nothing, I guess. I’ve gone for two weeks without social media and been fine 🙂
    What could you do instead if you weren’t online? Oh I’d teach 🙂 Literature and Music. And read. Read like there was no tomorrow.

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