How to Create a More Fulfilling Future: Week 4

NEW BLOG SERIES: How to create a more fulfilling future.
How To Create a More Fulfilling FutureIf you’ve missed any of the posts in this new series then don’t panic – you can catch up by clicking the links below:
Week 1
Week 2
Week 3
As promised, I will post additional questions for you to answer every Monday. You might want to gather them all together like a personal workbook, or just pop in and out to answer the questions that appeal to you.
Don’t think too hard about each question, just go with the first thing that pops into your head. Some questions will amuse you, others will test your boundaries, but all of them will bring about a sense of fulfilment.
Each week I’ll share the link to the previous questions so you can collect them as you go and don’t have to worry if you miss a week. They may seem random in their order, but if you do choose to follow the entire series, then you’ll hopefully get a fully rounded picture of your life, goals, and aspirations for a fulfilling future.
Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a new word document and record your answers so you can refer to them when needed. This week we are looking at the causes of stress in our daily lives and thinking of ways to deal with this. Sharing your thoughts in the comments could help another reader deal with an issue they are facing so please feel free to offer advice or feedback below.
Questions for week #4:

  1. What causes you stress (job/finances/relationships/family/etc)?
  1. What does that stress feel like for you (mentally/physically/emotionally)?
  2. How do you cope with stress?
  3. What strategies would you like to implement in your life to combat/deal with stress?

Join me next Monday for more questions.
As always, your responses can be as private or as public as you choose. Feel free to leave your answers in the comments below. If you’d rather not, then simply share how you find the selection of questions, if you can answer them easily or if you struggled, and what you have chosen to do with the answers that came up for you if anything.
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  1. Happy Monday Shelley!
    What causes you stress (job/finances/relationships/family/etc)? Job Stress, not having enough time to do all that I have to do, family, tween kids not listening!
    What does that stress feel like for you (mentally/physically/emotionally)? It is physically and mentally draining.
    How do you cope with stress? I try and switch off for a while, escape into a book or my blog. I also try to deal with issues head on, before they build up to something unmanageable.
    What strategies would you like to implement in your life to combat/deal with stress? Keeping regular dialogue open with the people who are responsible for the stress is probably the biggest thing. And if it’s not possible, the whole writing my stress away is something that I will do more regularly
    Have a great day!

    1. I think job stress is high on most people’s list, Ritu (that and the kids!!). Having that inner strength to know when to switch off, read a book, have a bath, or go for a walk is a vital way of dealing with that overwhelming feeling we often associate with stress. I love your point about keeping dialogue open as this is so important. Thanks for sharing your answers x

  2. 1. Health
    2. Physical and emotional and mental. All-encompassing
    3. Talking & talking some more, but then I start to bore myself. Plus escapism via TV/Film/Books/Music/my imagination
    4. I’m open for suggestions really. I would to try more positive thinking I’m always assuming I’m going to be in too much pain to do anything.

    1. I love your answers! Stress can be all encompassing if we don’t learn new ways to cope. Your escapism is wonderful and looks very similar to my own list. Meditation is one of my favourite ways to switch off – the Headspace app is marvellous.

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Rachael. I hope that even thinking over the questions can help my readers take a closer look at their thought patterns, coping strategies, and make changes to help themselves.

  3. Thanks Shelley. Well, that’s made me think! I find doing little things – a bath, a yoga class and writing all help de-stress. I work from home and can go a bit stir-crazy at times – staring at a screen all day. A walk really helps.

  4. Hi Shelley!
    What causes you stress?
    Money sometimes, giving up work to become a SAHM was the right decision for us as a family, but I can’t wait until I’m earning some more pocket money again! Also, I get agitated by small things, my daughter not being organised for school, to the kitchen being a mess 20 minutes after I tidied it up…stuff like that!
    What does that stress feel like for you?
    Agitation and shortening of the temper! Not to a great degree, and it’s short lived, but I take it out on my loved ones which instantly makes me feel terrible.
    How do you cope with stress?
    I just ride it out. If something causes me stress, it’s usually a small thing that doesn’t really matter in the whole scheme of things. Stepping away and breathing usually does the trick.
    I have anxiety too, which I am usually comfortable managing. Stress can trigger more anxiety, definitely, but it’s a different thing.
    What strategies would you like to implement in your life to combat/deal with stress?
    Let me know of these magical cures!!

    1. Thank you so much for sharing, Em. I had a mini melt down recently about the state of the house and my three children just looked at each other dumbfounded. ‘There’s nothing wrong with it!’ was their response. It taught me a valuable lesson – to them our house was ‘home’, a safe place to be, a sanctuary. They never noticed that the floor needed a vac, or the window ledge could do with a dust. It showed me that I was stressing over things that nobody else cared about. So I stopped. I’ll dust when I can, vac when I get a spare five minutes, but instead, I enjoy being at home with my kids – mess and all! 🙂

    1. Thanks, Lucy. Work stress tends to be top of everyone’s list. Perhaps we feel more out of control in this sector of our life.
      For your stomach pains I can suggest a Reiki move (don’t worry that you aren’t attuned, this is still a comforting move). Lay on your bed or sofa, close your eyes and hold your hands flat over the area of pain. Imagine you are drawing all this discomfort out of your tummy and up into your hands. Do your meditation breathing as you do this exercise. When you feel calmer and hopefully pain free shake your hands, clap, or wash your hands to get rid of the negative energy. Hope it helps xx

    1. Perfectly normal, Gloria. The idea of the questions is to test your unique responses. We tend to all follow one another when it comes to standard responses so feeling challenged will highlight an area you need to address. I’ve done these questions many times over the past few years and get a different response each time as my life shifts and evolves. Anyway, who wants to be normal? 😉 x

  5. One of my stressors is “what if”. I have a bad habit of jumping to worse case scenario. It is usually my stomach that manifest my stress. I work on it by trying to stay in the moment and realize I am okay right now and not forecast into the future which might not happen.

    1. Ah yes, the ‘what if’ phenomenon. Those two little words can make or break a dream! It’s interesting to note that in our head we tend to live 75% in the past, 20% in the future, and just 5% in the present moment. Scary isn’t it. Learning to live in the moment is so vital to our wellbeing. I still have those what if moments, normally centred around my writing. When that self-doubt starts to speak up with ‘what if nobody reads this?’ or ‘what if everyone laughs at you?’ I’ll stop myself and rephrase the inner dialogue. ‘What if I hit the best seller list?’ or ‘what if I get a film deal?’ 😉 they sound much better don’t they x

  6. Great thought inspiring post. Stress for me is caused by too much work and not enough time, I guess that’s a common enough problem, modern life means we have to keep going even when we know the best thing for us is to stop for a while.
    It feels like panic, the world goes mad around me and I can’t quite grab a hold on what I should be doing so I lose focus.
    I read to destress, losing myself in someone else’s words normally brings me back to a happy place and I always remind myself to smile.
    Smile, smile, smile because the next person I meet just might be having a worse day than me. It’s my life’s work to encourage more smiles in the world.

  7. Great questions, Shelley!
    1. What causes you stress (job/finances/relationships/family/etc)? I think lack of money can stress me out a lot. I don’t want to earn loads but my student fees and low salary mean that there isn’t a lot of room for luxuries. But, I start a new job soon which will change all that so I’m really excited.
    2. What does that stress feel like for you (mentally/physically/emotionally)? Mentally it can feel like my head is going to explode when I can’t find the solution to my problems. I may overeat when particularly stressed as well, which makes me feel guilty and then the stress continues!
    3. How do you cope with stress? Like I say, sometimes I may overeat. However, I exercise 5 days a week which really helps with my mental wellbeing and getting out for walks in the countryside helps me put things in perspective.
    4. What strategies would you like to implement in your life to combat/deal with stress? Being more mindful (when I remember!) definitely helps. Worrying about tomorrow, or the what-ifs, is a recipe for more stress. I try and live in the here and now and remind myself of what I’m in control of and what I’m not.

    1. You’ve hit upon a few points worth noting there. We put more stress on our shoulders when we do something we perceive as ‘naughty’. The overeating is a prime example. The guilt that can follow a snack attack can often derail a person and cause more anguish than just enjoying it was for it was then moving on.
      Exercise is a great way to boost our wellbeing (something I need to do more of!). Thank you so much for sharing and good luck with your new job x

  8. What causes you stress (job/finances/relationships/family/etc)? Too much pressure put on myself to be responsible for everything
    What does that stress feel like for you (mentally/physically/emotionally)? Emotionally I can get quite teary, physically I can get chest pains if it gets too much
    How do you cope with stress? I talk about it, have a bit of a cry and hide away for a few days
    What strategies would you like to implement in your life to combat/deal with stress? A way of being able to take a step back and allow others to take responsibility for things without feeling the need to control

    1. Finding that inner strength to step back and allow others to take responsibility is an excellent way to cope with stress. More often than not we suffer the anguish/symptoms of stress due to someone else’s actions and yet they remain oblivious to it.
      Putting pressure on yourself if something we all do and I know it’s something I want to work on in my own life. I think we often take on more than we are comfortable with. Perhaps we need to learn to say no a bit more! Thanks for sharing x

    1. I totally agree with you, Lisa. I started reading YA fantasy for the escapism as it was a turbulent time in my life. This has since become my favourite genre. I’m also able to lose myself in the story when I write my fiction.
      I find going to the cinema has a similar effect on me. I can totally escape for two hours into other worlds, or times.

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