Do You Believe in Yourself?
Self-doubt is a huge problem for many women, myself included. As soon as you begin to achieve anything or follow a life-long dream, that little voice inside your head whispers ‘you’re not good enough’ or ‘everyone will laugh at you.’
When we hear it we have two options; we can give in, listen to it and hide away, or we can believe in ourselves. As Susan Jeffers would say, feel the fear and do it anyway.
Believing in ourselves doesn’t mean we are better than anyone else. It can feel like we are on an ego trip if we say how proud we are of something we’ve achieved, but in this busy world it’s more vital than ever to be seen and heard especially if you’ve got something important to say. There are thousands of self-employed people across the world and as an author I place myself in that category. To sell our goods and services we must market ourselves and that’s when belief is so significant. It falls on our shoulders to convince a consumer that we’re worthy of their trust, and this means showing the world our best side. If you struggle to believe in your own abilities how can you ever be expected to show the world how truly confident, courageous, and talented you are?
It’s important to accept who you are warts and all so that you can start to believe. After my divorce fifteen years ago, I spent a long time getting to know who I was. Not as a wife, mother or daughter, but as me. What I discovered surprised me. I was good company.
It took me years to stop putting everyone else first (a trait that every woman will understand), but it was vital to my self-confidence and personal development. I took the time to look after myself, physically, mentally and emotionally and became a better parent and person for it. When you feel good about yourself and your life, you’re more likely to attract success and opportunities.
As a writer, the self-doubt monster slashes its razor sharp talons quite often in my direction. I finish a project and re-read my work with horror. Occasionally this horror is warranted, and I need to chuck it all in the bin and start from scratch! Other times, it’s just fear that rises and tries to thwart my attempts at making a living from what I love doing.
I feel the same with every project or event I do whether that’s writing my books, running my courses, or speaking at events. There’s always that moment of terror when the whispering self-doubt sounds like a fog horn. Somehow, I manage to hold onto the belief in myself, but I’m also a mess of nerves inside. How do I combat those feelings? I don’t think I ever have. I’ve just started to understand them and realise that I can still produce books, share courses, and continue to speak at functions despite my fears, and that’s something to be proud of. I’ve taught my children that if you put your mind to something it can be accomplished.
Remember to invest in yourself whether that’s related to your health, wellbeing or lifestyle. Adopt a new mantra, and tell yourself every day, ‘I’m enough.’
I believe in you.
Have you ever let self-doubt stop you from doing something? Perhaps you’ve felt the fear and done it anyway? What was your experience? Please share your stories in the comment section below and help other people to step outside their comfort zone.