Coaching with Business and Personal Coach Anne Wilkinson
Always open to trying something new, I was intrigued when I first met business and personal development coach, Anne Wilkinson and she told me about PSYCH-K®. I knew about coaching but had never heard of PSYCH-K®
Anne, a well-respected and experienced business coach for 18 years, is an Advanced Facilitator of PSYCH-K and certified NLP practitioner. We first met to discuss how I could support her social media and blogging activities and as we discussed her services and approach there was something in the way that she explained PSYCH-K® which resonated with me. It expands your ‘field of potential’ which is something I strive for in every aspect of my life.
Rob Williams who is the originator of PSYCH-K® (he refers to himself as the gatekeeper not the creator), explains it like this: “PSYCH-K® allows you to quickly and painlessly change subconscious beliefs that are limiting the full expression of your potential in life, as a spiritual being having a human experience. This includes your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
Having worked as a holistic health practitioner for ten years, I was familiar with the notion of our subconscious beliefs and how they can limit our potential. Limiting beliefs are something I struggle with in my personal and professional life all the time and I’m fully aware they stunt my personal growth and development, and in doing so, can diminish my life. Some limiting beliefs I do know about but I still can’t quite get to the core of them to change them. Others are subconscious beliefs outside of awareness and even though they determine our life experience we can’t change what we’re not aware of.
This is why working with an external coach can get much better results and quicker than thinking things through or even goal setting on our own, we mostly don’t see our own ‘stuff’.
Many of my (conscious) limiting beliefs are simple phrases and conversations from my childhood that remain fully active. Sometimes they are noticeable as ‘I’m not worth it’ ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘you’ll never amount to anything.’ At other times it’s more of an uncomfortable (or worse) feeling, or I procrastinate until I’ve missed the boat entirely.
Anne’s passion for coaching and PSYCH-K® comes across clearly. She is so committed to helping her clients achieve their goals and potential that I couldn’t resist asking if she could help me to release some of my negative thoughts that I know are holding me back in life.
I’ll admit it, even though I’d signed up for it I was quite nervous as I drove to Leamington Spa for my first session. Anne had explained the process fully to me but actively being involved in the session was something else entirely.
‘Would it work for me?’
‘What was I letting myself in for?’
As with anything new we often struggle to change even when we know it is good for us. My subconscious was already telling me I was in danger and should turn back and drive right back home, but thankfully I didn’t.
Anne welcomed me into her coaching practice at 39a Regent Street, Leamington Spa, a wonderfully light and airy space. She gave me a more in-depth introduction to the session before we settled in to talking through my goals and aspirations. We also discussed my client questionnaire which I’d filled in before the appointment and emailed over to her.
Through the coaching process we established three areas that were holding me back from achieving things in, business, finances and life; Self-doubt, fear of success and fear of abundance.
The irony was not lost that although I am enjoying more success as a published author, writer, blogger and workshop facilitator only I was aware of my inner struggle with confidence and I was having a very different experience on the inside, I feared some of the things that I wanted to achieve for myself.
Although the feelings and emotions attached to my beliefs come from experiences in my past, at the subconscious level they remain true. Our subconscious mind does not recognise the past or the future it operates only in the present moment. Anne helped me to make sense of how my beliefs were preventing me from achieving my potential and through the many ‘aha’ moments I could see the only thing that was holding me back was myself.
By this time I was really in the right place mentally to address the issues and feeling self-empowered I was ready to step into my power and change these unhelpful patterns.
Whilst the nervousness I had felt driving to my appointment is something Anne would expect from any new client she also explained this is another way that the subconscious was preparing to ‘save’ me from danger. The role of the subconscious mind is to keep us safe but it uses it’s own library of beliefs to determine what that means which is often different from our conscious library of goals and desires.
Any change therefore can feel dangerous in the world of the habitual subconscious mind, change we know is good for us but it was triggering my ‘fight or flight’ response. I think this is what Susan Jeffers meant in her famous best-seller book ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway’, published years ago.
The subconscious mind manages our bodily functions and is the auto-pilot that we rely heavily to navigate through life – literally! By repeating the same patterns over and over it believes it is keeping us safe from harm but often it is keeping us stuck as it uses outdated beliefs which were downloaded from our parents, family, teachers, friends and peers, particularly during our early years of zero to approximately seven years old.
Anne coached me through my vision and goals – an important part of her approach – and use of PSYCH-K® was how she reinforces throughout that the power of change does not lie with Anne as a coach or indeed the PSYCH-K process, it is within me, and you, and all of us.
We were born with the power to create a new experience for ourselves, but we were not taught this at school or pretty much anywhere. We just need some tools to help us. Anne describes herself as a facilitator of the change process, but not the creator of it.
We started the first session focusing on beliefs about self-worth, self-love and self-doubt which determines so much of our life experience. Anne calls these foundational beliefs and when you install the new enhancing beliefs using the PSYCH-K process it often has a domino benefit in wider areas of life/ business.
I got really clear about the evidence that I would want to know that the process worked and for me I knew it would be the physical evidence. My self-doubt feels like a bubbling sensation in the pit of my stomach as well as a mix of other physical sensations. To rid myself of these would be the evidence I needed. Anne also recommended that I continue to journal my observations following the session to gauge the changes and shifts and I found this to be a valuable part of the process.
Going through the PSYCH-K change process was a fascinating, powerful and meaningful experience for me. Unlike hypnotherapy you don’t go into an altered state with PSYCH-K. Not only was I fully conscious I felt more in control than I had for a long time. I have found it useful to focus on the new beliefs I created within the sessions at home. PSYCH-K removes negativity and creates new potential, but we still must step up and take the follow-up action.
PSYCH-K® is more subtle than other personal change tools/therapies I have used as it changes the thought field through changing subconscious beliefs. I found I sometimes didn’t notice until later when I was reflecting on something and I realise that I have done something that I wouldn’t have done before, I didn’t get upset in a situation that I would have previously, and I’ve seen a ‘different me’ when I look in the mirror. All in a good way.
The result so far
I have embraced certain aspects of my business with more confidence; speaking in public, going to networking events I previously avoided, feeling more comfortable about talking about money, seeing myself in a better light when I looked in the mirror and even doing Facebook videos! I’m about to attend my fourth session and there have been many shifts since I began coaching with Anne, so I am looking forward to where this journey takes me.
Anne offers face to face sessions and works remotely via Zoom, Skype and telephone.
She works with business clients at all levels across all sectors, including CEO’s, leaders and managers within large organisations and SME companies. She particularly enjoys coaching small business owners and creatives.
If you are ready for more success and fulfilment in your business and life I recommend that you give Anne a call on 07968 134326, email her at firstname.lastname@example.org, or visit her website.
Want to see my first Facebook video done after my first session with Anne? Click the link HERE.